My bride, Marie was a long-time friend of mine and she had finally met her soul-mate...Derek. They hadn't dated long, yet, they both knew that they were meant to be married.
So, from my office in Texas (with the help of e-mails and telephone calls) all the plans were in-place in a matter of days.
Several weeks before the wedding I went to Chicago to visit all the venues & meet the vendors (to make sure that everything was copasetic). Sure enough...we were good-to-go.
During that particular visit, I met Derek...What a guy!
Now if there is one thing that I can always detect is how "in-love" a couple is. And, boy!...they had it bad! I don't think that I have ever seen Marie so happy...EVER!
Marie was in her 30's and pretty (no, very) set in her ways. There was only one way to do things...and that was her way. (Which was not always a bad thing...unless her way was not the best idea.)
Yet, Derek, was her perfect match...he had a way of "smoothing-out the wrinkles" for her. She was at-ease with Derek & it was nice to see this with two people who were about to commit to spending the rest of their lives together.
Rewind... Now Marie, was engaged once before. A couple of years earlier, she called-off the wedding weeks before, because she realized that it would have been a mistake to marry him...her heart wasn't in it.
Fast forward... On the days leading-up to her wedding with Derek, I spoke with Marie almost every day. She sounded angst-ridden and stressed. Yet, I couldn't put my finger on why...I arrived in Chicago several days before the event to put things in-place and help Marie with final details. It didn't take long for me to realize that Marie was so upset because she was not allowing herself to decompress. She said that she wouldn't allow herself to cry, because she was afraid that that meant something was wrong.
Since everything had been so perfect with Derek, Marie had concerns that perhaps she was missing something... It was at that point that I told Marie something that I always tell my brides...
"Once you've found Mr. Right and you decide to marry him, marriage is not work...its worth it."
I also told her that the fastest way to de-stress was to cry. (It's God's special little pressure valve that he's put into each of us.)
The day before the wedding Marie checked into the Penthouse Suite of the Hotel. Against my advice...Marie decided to have her Matron of Honor, the Flower Girl & the Ring Bearer, as well as the other Bridesmaids, stay with her the night before.
Needless to say...on the day of the wedding, Marie was a wreck. There was so much chaos in the Penthouse that I had to get Marie out of there, for some peace & quiet. So, we took a short walk around the corner to the Hair Salon. And that was the beginning of the end...
About every 10-minutes, Marie was sick. She couldn't eat or drink. (Poor thing...she was one hot mess.) Her hair looked like a half-styled bowl and she couldn't stop crying long enough to have her make-up done.
When we returned to the Penthouse, I sent everyone to another room & called Derek. The Matron of Honor was incensed that I would suggest "breaking with tradition" and let the Groom see the Bride before they married. But, this was a situation that only true love could fix. So, much to the Maitron of Honor's discord...Derek came to rescue his bride.
Derek & Marie went on to the balcony of the Penthouse Suite...just the two of them, alone. No interruptions came from the Matron of Honor, from any of the children or even over-protective parents. (Probably because I was standing in-front of the door & wouldn't let anyone go out there.) And, after 45-minutes...he DID it! Derek fixed it.
Marie came back inside a brand-new Bride, excited, happy & ready to put-on her gown. It didn't take long for Marie to be transformed from a vision of anxiousness, into a vision of lovliness.
Marie & Derek were married in The Episcopal Cathedral at 4:30 that day...just as planned.
The Ceremony was perfect, the food divine & the music fabulous! (Of course...it was Chicago!) The merriment went-on for hours but the memories will last a lifetime. And, 9-years & one son later...Marie & Derek are still the perfect match!